Question by Bella: FIL and xmas gift for fiance – help!?
this year, my fiance and i decided that we would spend the night at his parents house xmas eve so we could all be together and enjoy the holidays… now, i have always known that my soon to be FIL is a drunk, undiagnosed bipolar, pain in the rear! over time, i have grown used to his stupid comments and learned to let what he says roll off my back… i stayed up late last night at my house, wrapping up a gift for my fiance, and part of it is a joke between us, where i have re wrapped presents from last year, put them in a large box, and wrapped up the box.. this was because i was pretty sure he saw the real present, and its also in a large box, so i want to throw him off a bit.. the final present in the joke box is a card, that has been wrapped up in about 10 different boxes and bags, and when he finally gets down to it, it will tell him where to find the real present, hidden in his parents house.. my fiances kids will also be there tomorrow morning, so i thought this would be a lot of fun.. well, on our way back to my house today, he informed me that he wanted me to give him his present privately so i wouldnt have to listen to his father say, “oh what a waste of $ $ .” which is the way he is… now, i dont live with his parents, they dont support me in any way… i eat dinner at there house, but i also clean up after wards, ya know, do my chores, so i dont really count that as ‘support.’ how i spend my $ $ , on what and whom is my decision… my fiance and i dont live together either, so its not like we’ve combined any income or i am using any of his $ $ for anything… i got upset and told my man that i am always prepared for whatever stupid thing his father has to say to me, because there is always something! he kept trying to explain to me that he didnt want his father to hurt my feelings, and i started to cry because i had put so much effort into what i thought would be a little bit of fun… when he realized that he just killed all the fun for me and that i had been up till 2:30am putting it together last night, he said to himself, “i should learn to keep my mouth shut.. i’m sorry…” anyway, i told him that i will leave everything at home if it made him feel that uncomfortable.. he assured me that it wasnt him who was uncomfortable, he doesnt want me to be uncomfortable with his dad… i said i didnt give a crap what his dad thinks and that he has no bearing on what i know is right for me.. but now, i wonder, should i still bring the gift? it wont be nearly as fun if my fiance has to open it here, at my house, and ruins the whole card that i have already wrapped up.. i really want to bring it still… what do you think?
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Answer by Lesley “Cullen”
You should definatly bring the present. It will be more fun for everyone,
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